So I was on DL earlier, and I came upon this guy’s blog about a story his friend told him. The gist of his statement is basically asking whether or not money truly matters in a relationship, and if it does matter, then how much? It’s very interesting to think about this for a minute, especially considering how many headlines I’ve read saying something like, “I don’t want a paper gangsta” or “Cash me out”, or “Chase that green”. It’s not to say I’m not ambitious, but really? I’ve never met a person made out of paper anyways? 
Read on for the story!
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My friends and I went to John and Yoko (in Greenbelt) for dinner. As dinner went on, one of my friends told us a story about her sister who had a boyfriend who was “poor.” She’d pay for everything he needed – laptop, cellphone, and other things. The guy, as what my friend said, was nice to her sister. He showed her how much he loved her, not through material things, but through actions. She was happy with him.
After a while of being in the relationship, her sister moved to the States to be with their parents. There, she met a guy. The guy paid for everything she needed. She’s a rich girl, but she didn’t have to spend a single cent on him. Other than material things, he made her feel loved. This now caused her break-up with her boyfriend here in the Philippines.
He was a poor boy. He still is. So, then my friend said, “Get a boyfriend who is as rich as you or richer than you who will love you, and then marry him” Her sister felt used by the guy. He only loved her, probably because she had the money, and he had none. It wasn’t like the guy whom she’s with now. She’s happier.
I began to think. Does this only apply to heterosexuals?
My friend faced me and told me, “Even if you’re not gonna get married, just get a guy richer than you!”
So how does that work for gay people, then? I mean… seriously. If a guy looks for a boyfriend richer than him, wouldn’t the other guy look for another guy richer than him? So then it becomes a chain of guys looking for guys richer than them to the point that everyone would just keep searching.
What, then, happens to the poor guy? I mean… doesn’t the poor guy deserve to be happy as well? As i went on with that thought, I started understanding what my friend meant by “getting a boyfriend richer than you.” What if the guy just uses your money? Does money really have an effect in a relationship between people? Will the so-called “love” you guys shared blind you so hard that you wouldn’t even notice that he’s already using you and is just “loving” you for your money?
Finding a “boyfriend richer than you,” I think, is hard. I mean… if that rule applied, then I don’t think anybody would be totally happy. Just think of it as a chain reaction. We’d all look for someone richer than us. What if the richest person can’t find someone richer?
As I go further with the argument into my head, I then realized that not everyone’s in it for the money. What if love truly existed between two people no matter what their social statuses are?
So now my question is: even if we say that money isn’t a factor in a relationship, will it still be the same after a while?”
Hmm, at the end of the day, my motto stays the same : To each his own! It’s Fourth of July, so party as hard as you can! If you’re around town tonight, check out the Downtown Marina/Waterfront in Stockton. There’s always fireworks, beer, and fun!
i must state that most typical gay guys have become the most superficial people i have seen lately. at times, it makes me so out of place which is really ironic because i am probably one of the most open people anyone can come across. everyone has become materialistic that it has become one of my biggest pet peeves. and with the whole money thing.. i think have some sort of financial stability is good enough. as long you have money to pay for yourself (i.e. cell phone, food) you are in the clear. but i also believe that people should be a bit more respectful to where others come from and see where it could lead.
I agrre with Victor on everything he said . I really couldn’t have said it better myself .